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- When I Grow Up I Want to Be....
When I was a teenager in high school I decided I wanted to be a songwriter when I grew up. It didn't hurt that nearly all of my "boyfriends" during that phase of my life were musicians, singers, guitar players or drummers. So I kept a notebook with all of my budding song ideas. And one notebook turned into two, then three and then six or seven by the time high school was said and done. The problem was that all of my "songs", I use the term loosely as they were more like badly rhyming poems without music, were so depressing that anyone trying to put them to music would probably end up committing suicide. Why in the world anyone would want to put that depressing dribble to music is beyond me now, but at the time I thought I was on to something. It is true of many songs and songwriters that they write their best songs when the going gets tough, the songwriters start writing. But I couldn't write a "don't worry, be happy" song to save my life. The problem was, when life was good who wanted to stop living long enough to commit it to a song - it was more fun to be in the moment. But when life sucked, writing a song about it was like therapy, it somehow helped you be in that moment and extract something worthwhile from it, with the word "worthwhile" being in the ears of the beholder. I remember that I loved the songwriters more than the singers or the musicians. I loved Carol King more than James Taylor for You've Got a Friend, Leonard Cohen more than KD Lang for Hallelujah - heck I loved everything Leonard Cohen wrote and he couldn't sing for his life. Same with Bob Dylan, it was the words not the sound quality that always touched me. And I fell in love with these songwriters, those willing to bear their souls to the world and have it put to music for everyone to hear and know. So you might have guessed, I didn't grow up to be a songwriter but I thought it might be fun to dig out one of those old songs and dust it off, do what I always wanted to do, share it with the world. So here goes: Nothing More Than You Silently and softly I steal across your mind. I do not wish To devour time But only to touch it. At this moment I think There is nothing More to life Than you. There are other things That keep screaming In my mind. But I don't need to listen Our whispered thoughts Are enough. At this moment I think There is nothing More to life Than you. Don't die in front of My reality. I'm tired of reaching out To touch And seeing things disappear. At this moment I think There is nothing More to life Than you. Keep me In your thoughts At least. Each year, less But keep me somewhere. At this moment I think There is nothing More to life Than you. Now if there's anyone out there that feels compelled to put these words to music, just contact my agent and I'm sure we can arrange something. That is as soon as I get an agent :-) Hallelujah. This post is dedicated to Cheryl P, the one that spells her name wrong. The same one that shot the photo below.
- It Only Appears Bad Due to Lack of Perspective
The illusion that something is good or bad is usually only a matter of perspective. There is a great parable that illustrates this point. It is about a man whose son captures a beautiful, wild horse. His family and friends say to him, how wonderful, what a great skill your son has, how lucky he is and the father only responds, we will see. When the son is thrown from the horse and breaks his leg, his family and friends all say how terrible it is and what a curse the horse is and the father responds, we will see. So when the military comes into town to gather up all of the able-bodied boys to march off to war, his friends and family say how wonderful it is that your son's leg was broken and that he was spared military service and his father responds...you guessed it, we will see. So the moral of the story is that no matter how good or bad something may appear at the time, it is only perspective that allows us to see a broader meaning or reason for that thing to occur in our life. The thing itself is neither bad or good, only our perception changes bad to good or good to bad. Said another way, we would all be much happier and healthier if we could remember this at times when things appear to be going badly, or even in times when they appear to be going well so we don't get stuck in our mistaken perception. Although I don't want to give up my joyful times, I certainly could do with some perspective in my less than joyful or sorrowful times. I experienced this lesson when I was quite young faced with a daunting decision at the age of 15. I found myself pregnant, in a relationship with a heroin addict and living in government subsidized housing. My mother insisted that I go to a convent to have my baby and then give it up for adoption. I knew this would be the end of my education and that I would soon follow in her footsteps and never make it to college even though it was always my dream. I ran away and was picked up by the police after a few days of living on the streets. I spent several hours speaking with the Catholic Priest who was on call at police headquarters until my mother arrived to pick me up. The Father convinced my mother that she should honor my request to terminate the pregnancy and after she recovered from being told by a man of the cloth to allow an abortion, she agreed. So off I went to New York (this was just before Roe versus Wade legalized it nationwide) alone, afraid and feeling like my life was over in so many ways. I managed to recover and found new meaning in my life once I was relocated to my grandparents' care. Only a short year later, I was instrumental in starting a community crisis hot line and high school peer counseling center where I personally helped hundreds of girls just like myself through the tough choices of teenage pregnancy. I was able to share the terrible truth of a decision to have an abortion and I know that I had a tremendous impact on those that sought my advice. I also know that I was a role model for girls who thought that suicide was their only choice as their life looked to be too terrible to bear. I assured them that it was only a matter of perspective and that eventually they too would see how this event could positively impact their life or the lives of those they touched. What a wonderful gift this experience was in that it shaped me to be able to return the gift to those in need. And this event continued to impact my life as I entered college. My training and experience as a peer counselor prepared me for my application to become a resident assistant in the college dorm at Michigan State University. I was uniquely qualified for this position and securing it was a tremendous help as I paid my own way through college. Being a resident assistant covered the costs of room and board and was yet another sign that what happened to me wasn't a curse after all. These events help me to remember in the midst of something that appears to be terrible, it only seems so because I don't yet have the perspective that will help me see it differently. I try to imagine that I am standing in front of a tree so close that I can't even see that it is a tree yet. And then I imagine slowly backing away from the tree, allowing distance and light to enter my field of vision, allowing me to finally see the situation clearly. This helps me have the patience to gain the perspective for whatever seems terrible to take on its true meaning in my life. Even if it might take months or years to get there, I trust that it will come. And this trust makes it easier to bear in the present moment and helps me embrace those terrible moments. Photo by Eddie Kopp on Unsplash
- Are You on the Right Path?
Photo by Oliver Roos on Unsplash Tragedy has a way of getting your attention and shaking you to your core. As an as individual, you may be facing extended isolation, the loss of a job, family illness or the death of a loved one. These jolts to the system can stop you in your tracks, make you question your values and priorities and challenge the choices you have made and continue to make daily. If that’s the case, don’t be alarmed. You’re not drowning. And you’re not alone. You’re having a natural reaction. The bigger question is: do you want to take the time to go deeper to explore how to get past this fear and anxiety brought on by COVID-19? Because if you do, the reward could be your chance to make significant changes in your life so you can live how you were meant to live, both personally and professionally. In other words, it’s time to learn how to sing your song. Don’t be Afraid to Look for Your Song To learn how to sing your song, where do you start? I recommend taking three key steps. First, take a look at the book, The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. It’s one of those classic books that nearly everyone reads at some point in their life. I seem to remember reading it 10+years ago. A few months ago, it somehow appeared at the top of my Audible library list when I was searching for something else. Books only come to the top of your list if you open or download them or have some recent interaction. I had not knowingly clicked on the book, yet there it was right at the top of my reading list. This was the equivalent of a book jumping off the bookshelf and landing at your feet. So, I followed the sign and re-read the book. The book tells a charming fictitious story of Santiago and the search for his “personal legend.” You join him as he faces his fears, loses everything, overcomes obstacles, falls in love and still follows the signs and omens that deliver him back home to where his “treasure” has always been waiting for him. Through this we learn that the journey is much more than the destination. There are so many beautiful lessons and people that he meets along the way. His willingness to follow his “personal legend” inspires those he meets to do the same. It doesn’t hurt that he is successful, and he gets the girl in the end. But along the way, the story inspires us to follow the signs in our own lives toward our own “personal legend.” The second step to learning how to sing your song is to really listen to the small quiet voice within you because your song can be found only in one place, within. Ask yourself, “What is it that brings me joy? What ignites my passion?” There are many paths to the source of your song, including meditation, prayer, selfless service, nature, inspirational readings, music, dance and immersing yourself in the love of family and friends. And then plunge into those experiences. Watch for the signs and signals, keeping your mind and heart open. What do they tell you about your song? The third step is to identify where you are going in the distance, something I call the castle, and then define the first step you plan to take in the direction of this new destination. In my practice, I use something I call creative manifesting to hold the vision of the castle firmly in mind, to unite with that vision of myself and then feel what it will be like to finally arrive back at my authentic self. What It’s Like to Sing Your Song When you start to sing your song, you feel a clarity of intention and the draw of intense attention. Beautiful music requires a singular focus. It’s impossible to sing with your mouth full, or your attention divided between different melodies. You can only listen and sing one song. Yours may require you to let go of things that are disharmonious or things that no longer serve you. Or you might change your focus to that which brings you the most joy and fulfillment. Your song may start faintly, like a warmup before the show starts. It can lead up to a prelude before the main act, appear in exactly the right place and right time in your story, and then end with the crescendo of You living and breathing your life’s purpose. That is what we all want in the end, to have satisfied our life’s purpose, with our song playing loudly in our life, and for those who we are here to serve. Can you afford not to find you song? I know the world will be a better place when you find it, and your happiness may depend on it. How I Found My Song in the Midst of COVID When I was reading “The Alchemist”, I learned that life was pushing me into my next adventure. And I moved toward it despite confronting personal difficulties along with this historic pandemic that we all continue to face. At the same time, a dear friend of mine tells me she wants to hire me as her Life Coach and formalize the work we have been doing together informally and sporadically. I thought I was being a good friend and doing what I always do with my team, staff, volunteers, family, and friends; listen and hold them in the highest vision of themselves. The request for me to be a Life Coach led me to take a 30-hour intensive workshop and become a Certified Life Coach. During the class, it became clear to me that helping people find their “personal legend” resonated as an excellent descriptor of what I strive for when coaching my friends or colleagues. These words were inspired by “The Alchemist.” The name, Personal Legend Coaching, and website URL were available, and I took the plunge. I am now on a path where I am doing what comes naturally to me, helping others see the best in themselves. I will leave you with my favorite quote from the book: “The boy didn't know what a Personal Legend was. It's what you have always wanted to accomplish. Everyone, when they are young, knows what their Personal Legend is. At that point in their lives, everything is clear and everything is possible. They are not afraid to dream, and to yearn for everything they would like to see happen to them in their lives. But, as time passes, a mysterious force begins to convince them that it will be impossible for them to realize their Personal Legend.” Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist. Your Personal Legend is your mission on earth along with the journey back to yourself. As terrible as the world events seem right now, good will emerge, especially for those who decide to examine how they live their lives and listen to the signs the universe is sending.
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Discover Your True Purpose Life Coaching for Authentic Living Book a Free Consultation Meet Sheryl Take Control of Your Future My vision is to lead a fully authentic life full of joy and one that helps others along the path to their authentic self, making the world a better place, one connection at a time. Allmaya was inspired by the Sanscrit word "maya," directly translated as illusion. The illusion is our mistaken tendency to regard appearance as reality, when in fact, it is nothing more than reality filtered through our perceptions and judgments. By adding the word "all," this phrase reminds me that no matter what is going on around me, it is all an illusion, and I can decide how I want to perceive it - as good, bad or indifferent. And much more powerful than the illusion is our ability to take charge of our world view, giving us tremendous creative power, just like the goddess Maya who personifies the power to create our reality. Let's do that together, create a reality in your own image. Feel free to contact me with any questions and learn how to make this happen in your life. Let's Talk What I Specialize In Life Coaching Business & Career Coaching LinkedIn 1:1 Coaching Sessions LinkedIn Speaker & Webinars Cognitive Behavioral Coaching Learn More The Journey Towards Health Begins on the Path of Self Love. Begin Your Journey Today. Book A Free Consultation Sheryl is much more than a Life Coach. I see her as a Spiritual Guide. She inspires me to better define my goals in terms of my career and my relationships. She uses creative visualization to help me with manifesting my dreams and highest aspirations. Ultimately, working with Sheryl is helping me to become my higher self and lead a life filled with abundance and clarity of purpose. Linda Lathroum, Ph.D. I had the privilege of Sheryl being my coach and loved the way she facilitated, challenged and ‘squeezed’ me to get that extra insight out of our 1:1 sessions. As an Exec Coach myself I recognise value and Sheryl is one that ticks all the boxes. It always felt more a case of co-creation or collaboration as opposed to one way or top down working and that is the best compliment I can pay her. Farooq Muhammad, CEO Sheryl is a force of to be reckoned with. I adore working with her because she helps me dream bigger and holds that vision with me. Thanks to Sheryl's straight talk about my own worth and value, I was able to successfully negotiate a higher salary than I would have otherwise. What's more, Sheryl gets things done! No sitting on the sidelines waiting for life to happen. Cassidy Meeks, Youth & Family Ministry Director See More Testimonials Let’s Talk Schedule a Session Let's chat about where you are on your journey and where you would like to go. Let's Talk